I don’t think I am off base when I say that most of us have a pretty good idea of what our ideal dream life looks like. What if I asked you what was standing in your way of manifesting that dream? It’s a pretty sure bet you would either name a few less attractive qualities about yourself or talk about how others are blocking you. Either route you take, it is certain that what is hindering your progress boils down to one thing: limiting beliefs.
What are Limiting Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are ideas we formed as children, usually before the age of 6, that affect how we view ourselves, others and the world around us. We develop them based on patterns we observed and experienced, then made our own assumptions on cause and effect.
For Example: I’m not easy to love.
The Root: conditions placed on you during childhood that determined how you were treated by your parents. You acted like yourself (against their rules) = non lovable. You conformed to their expectations – lovable.
Your limiting beliefs can be conscious (you know you are doing it) or unconscious (you act without thinking, automatic reaction), but are mostly unconscious.
It may help to think of it this way: your core beliefs make up your Higher Self (the true essence of who you are, your soul) while your limiting beliefs comprise your Ego Self (how you show up, it is never satisfied).
Why Care About Them?
- You believe they are your truth
- You are living on outdated ideas that you created as a juvenile
- They stand in the way of manifesting your dreams
- They take away your power
- Keeps you caged and limited, shackled and imprisoned
- Inhibits your progress
- Throws up blocks you don’t know how to get around or don’t believe you can
- Affects every area of your life: relationships, how you show up, what actions you take, pre-determine what is possible for you, directly impact your happiness
- Self-fulfilling prophecies
What you put out into the universe is what you get. It’s the Law of Attraction in motion, you attract what you focus on. If you think you aren’t good enough, how will you ever quit that corporate job you hate and live your dream?
Understanding that you create your own reality with your beliefs, it’s time to get out of your own way.
You are the only one that is holding you back from achieving what you desire.
How Do You Overcome Limiting Beliefs?
Be mindful of the words you choose
- Listen to the tape recorder in your head. How do you talk to yourself? Would you speak that way to a friend?
- Monitor your inner critic/self-talk
Observe your thoughts
- Challenge the thought. Do you really mean that? Where/Who did that thought come from?
Notice patterns by journaling
- Write it out. Get it out of your head. You may never even know these thoughts exist until you take the time to do so.
Be honest with yourself
- Don’t bother if you aren’t. Why waste your time if you aren’t going to put in the effort and do it right?
- Does it serve you? Does it help you move forward?
- If no, how can you rewrite it?
What are you really afraid of? What is the root fear?
- Keep asking questions. As yourself why after every answer. Keep going until you discover what it really is you are afraid of.
- My fear: I am fascinated by tarot but am afraid to tell anyone because I fear what the reaction will be. As a child growing up in a religious household, tarot was seen as evil or the devil’s work by my parents..
- How I express my fear: I don’t tell anyone that I love tarot, I keep it hidden.
- The root of my fear: I am afraid to be seen for who I really am because I may lose friends.
- New belief: It is okay to lose friends who don’t love me for who I really am, I will attract those who do.
Pay attention to your language
- Should (I should exercise), always (I am always late), never (I could never do that), too (I’m too much for him), would be if (I would be happy if), I’m not (I’m not good enough for that job), I’ve already (I’ve already tried, it doesn’t work for me), I don’t (I don’t have the skills to do that), I have (I have too many responsibilities) statements
- Use present tense, as if they have already happened
- Affirmations can change around your beliefs. I’m too much for him into I am perfect exactly the way I am.
- Not going to happen overnight but with conscious effort you will see results very quickly
- Have patience! This is not easy work so be kind to yourself.
What beliefs did you bust today? Tell me in the comments so I can celebrate your success with you!