Spend enough time in the world of spiritual awakening and you are bound to come across the Law of Attraction at some point.
Not an exception to this premise, I read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and watched her documentary of the same name.
I bought an app (there are plenty) and followed the steps, excited I was finally creating the dream life I wanted.
However, absolutely nothing changed and I pushed it aside feeling that yet again, I was miles away from living my best life.
Fast forward 2 years later.
I hit a rough patch in my long distance relationship and my spiritual/relationship/life coach texted me a random video one night.
I normally never watch videos, especially anything over 3 minutes, but something pushed me to watch it that night. Maybe it was feeling complete and total despair as to what to do to make my relationship better.
It’s all in the timing.
Something in me was ready to listen that night.
Whatever it was, this go round with Law of Attraction worked and worked very quickly. I read and watched everything I could get my hands on how to manifest with the law of attraction.
And my world shifted massively.
It took less than 2 weeks to notice a drastic change in how I felt, what was happening around me and most noticeably, in my relationship. I sat up in bed and thought incredulously…it can’t be this easy. Can it?
What is the Law of Attraction?
Simply put, the idea is that whatever you focus on you will attract into your life
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Now that we know the basic premise, let’s get into the nitty gritty details.
The Science Behind the Law of Attraction
The only thing I knew about quantum physics prior to learning about the Law of Attraction came from the physics major I dated in college. I remember his, what I believed to be at the time, very weird fascination and excitement over something called quarks. It’s interesting to think that this memory has resurfaced in my brain 24 years later but I am glad it did because I now understand his excitement.
Here is the cliff notes version of how quantum physics and the law of attraction relate:
- Quantum physics studies the smallest particles of energy.
- The Law of Attraction is all about aligning your energy at the correct vibration to attract what you want.
- Physicists observed that energy particles behave differently when being observed.
- Everything in the universe is connected (quantum entanglement) and one thing can’t be influenced without influencing the other, no matter the distance between them.
- You have control over your thoughts. Thoughts are energy. If energy behaves differently when observed and everything is connected, there is scientific proof that you create your own reality.
Let me say that again.
How you observe what is around you is how your environment responds because everything is connected.
Creating Your Reality
Want a better relationship? Look at how you view others around you. Are you jealous or resentful that they have what you want? Or are you happy for them and wish them well, knowing one day you too will have something similar in nature?
Your thoughts become things. What you fixate on is what you ask for. Therefore, focusing on what you do want, not what you don’t, will give you the results you are looking for (although sometimes not in the way you were expecting)
3) The Vortex
Main goal of the Law of Attraction is to be in what Abraham Hicks calls The Vortex. Simply put, the feel good sweet spot of manifestation, the place where you are aligned with your Higher Self and the perfect vibration to attract what you truly desire. It’s very easy to know whether you are in or out. In? You feel amazing. Out? You feel terrible.
Everything around you is responding to you and what you receive is dictated by your feelings at the time. (Want help with creating your own reality through your feelings? Danielle LaPorte has an amazing Daily Planner that will walk you through it.)
5) Your Brain
It’s not hard but requires diligent practice and a lot of effort. You are completely rewiring your brain (called neuroplasticity).
Your habits are pre wired in your brain. When you try to change a habit, you have to rewire that pathway and create a new one.
If you have always viewed the world as glass half empty, it’s not easy to snap your fingers and suddenly you are a glass half full person.
Not easy but not impossible.
It usually takes about 3-4 weeks to rewire your brain, but could be much quicker, in my case less than 2 weeks.
All you have to do to change your pathway is practice. Each time you intentionally challenge your old go to habit and consciously choose a new one, you are chipping away at it. It gets easier and easier the more you do it until eventually you have dismantled the old road and built a new one.
6) Other people
You cannot control other people. You can only control how you react. In the relationship example, you cannot manifest a change in how your partner treats you. This realization was a huge turning point for me. I had spent all of my energy on trying to get him to do what I wanted instead of turning my focus on myself and taking responsibility for my feelings.
Why Does the Law of Attraction Work?
Firstly, it’s a complete shift in behavior.
Who is going to argue that you are doing something detrimental when you are totally changing how you view the world, your life and those around you?
Secondly, what you perceive, you conceive. Two people can experience the exact same occurrence and view it completely differently.
Thirdly, you are rewiring your brain. You are training it to do what you want it to do. How cool is that?
Why is Knowing How to Work with the Law of Attraction Important?
When you discover that your happiness is not depending upon outcomes of others, but that it is simply the result of your deliberate focus, you will finally find the freedom that is your most intense desire.
In addition, with that understanding will also come everything else you have ever wanted or will ever want.
“Control over the way you feel—over your response to things, over your response to others or your response to situations—is not only the key to your consistent happiness, but to everything you desire as well. It really is worth practicing.” – Esther Hicks
I would be willing to bet that most of us have an idea of the ideal life we want to live. At the same time, I would also be willing to bet that most of us don’t know how to get to that goal
Manifesting through the law of attraction is the answer to how to create your dream life.
How Do You Use The Law Of Attraction To Create Your Dream Life?
What do you want?
Align with your Higher Self (the true essence of who you are), not your ego self (the part of you that is never satisfied).
You will know when you are on the right track and inThe Vortex because it feels good. If it doesn’t, it’s your ego talking.
This is why it is so important to know who you truly are at your core.
Related: Sign up for my 5-Day Who Are You? Challenge
Rewire your Brain
This is the hardest and longest step, the one that takes all the work.
Recognize negative feelings. Notice I didn’t say thoughts. Thoughts often go through your head without you even realizing you are thinking them and it takes an awful lot of brain power to monitor them constantly. The easier way to know when you are off track is simply pay attention to your feelings.
When you feel bad, it’s an indicator you are not in the vortex and are operating from your ego.
As soon as you notice this, immediately change the direction of your thoughts.
I am so hurt, frustrated and upset that my partner didn’t call me or text me when I wanted him to.
Choice: spiral into a vicious cycle of feeling like the victim and ruining my day or shift my thoughts.
How I shift: every single time I feel frustrated with my partner, I immediately visualize one of my favorite moments with him. Even if the only experience or thought you can come up with is still negative, it’s okay. As long as you aren’t focusing on the super negative thoughts, it’s a step in the right direction.
You don’t have to go from feeling terrible to pretending everything is amazing. It’s the quickest way to fail.
Your goal is to actually feel a difference in your body and how you are feeling. If you can move one step closer to feeling happy, this is a step in the right direction.
Think of it as distracting yourself. Instead of allowing yourself to spiral into the pits of despair, you are offering yourself a ladder to climb out.
Yes, this is really, really hard. I struggled with this a lot and felt like I was physically fighting with my ego.
Visualize it as if it already happened. Use present tense.
You know your final goal, the dream life you wish to create. The key here is to release control of the outcome you want and trust that it will happen.
Yes, for an introverted perfectionist control freak like me, it is almost asking the impossible.
The shift happened for me when I realized that by forcing what I wanted instead of allowing it to happen, I was placing conditions on what I desired.
Here’s the rub: you can ask for something and the universe always answers but a lot times, not the way you expected. If you try and manipulate your result, you are not allowing what is coming to you. You are blocking your dream and this won’t work.
You have to let go of resistance and trust that more times than not, what is coming to you is way better than you ever imagined.
Get a journal. Every single day, write down 5/10/15 things that you are grateful for.
Write about what you already have and about what you want as if it has already happened.
Related Reading: 4 Guaranteed Results from Gratitude Journaling
Practice daily and don’t beat yourself up
Going back through my texts to my life coach, I found some good advice that I want to share with you.
I told her that the only rules I was going to follow was to practice every day and not beat myself up when i didn’t do it perfectly
This took so much pressure off of me to do it “right” and allowed me to instead focus on just trying with deliberate and conscious effort.
What will you experience?
No doubt about it, this is hard. It physically hurts, I swear I could feel my brain screaming at me. The physical sensations in my body were very real and I felt like I was literally fighting with myself.
Then, it’s like the fog lifts and the smoke clears. All of a sudden you have such incredible mental clarity, you sit up in bed and think “that’s it?! It’s really this easy?”
Once you hit this point, you know you are on your way to creating your dream life with the power of the law of attraction.
10 months later, my relationship has never been better. It did not happen overnight but after it was finally clear to me exactly how I created my own reality, it became easier and easier to manifest what i wanted – not just in my relationship but all aspects of my life.
If you can’t quite grasp the concept, it’s okay. You will when the time is right for you.
What are your experiences with manifesting with the Law of Attraction? Did you feel a shift in your world?